How To Overcome Defeat?

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Failure is not something they teach you in school; it is something life teaches you. You may experience it on the playground when you get knocked down. Failure may hit you in the form of a failed examination, or a rejection from a university. It strikes us on the job all of the time. We may not get the promotion we think we’ve earned; or the initiative we are working on, slaving over for months, turns to dust. Failure is part of life. After all, A Loss Is Not a Defeat. Here are some suggestions to overcome defeat. 

First of all, Avoid personalizing defeat. If you accept defeat and internalize it as a personal failing, you will be defeated. What if a director were looking for a leading man in his twenties, and you are in your late forties? You have to be realistic; you must fit the part. The same applies to management. You must accept that the project did not meet expectations and your leadership was lacking, but you the person are not a “loser.” You and your team did not make the grade and that's okay. Next, Analyze what went wrong. You have to distance yourself from what happened by looking at the facts. Self-analysis that leads to self-awareness is required. Self-analysis that leads to self-pity is to be loathed. Take an active role in your self-discovery process. Write down what you would do differently the next time. Then, Renew yourself. Things did not work out as well as you expected. Your next step reveals your character. Admitting defeat and acknowledging circumstance and responsibility lays the foundation for moving forward. Choose your next objective, or ready yourself for the next effort. Study your mistakes. Consider your options. In time, you will get your energy back and be ready for the struggle ahead. Lastly, Fight Back. No one wants failure, and in fact, a desire to avoid the risk of failure may indicate that you lack the inner fortitude to face adversity head-on. Adversity may be in the guise of a competitor who stalks your every move. Or it may take the shape of a ruthless boss who hoards all ideas and credit for himself. Picking your battles is essential. Always remember that We will Only Fail when we stop trying.